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Fay, James P., “Jimmy” April 27, 1964 - May 25, 2023

James Patrick Fay passed away on May 25 with his beloved family by his side.  He is predeceased by his cherished parents, Richard J. Fay and Regina Ormond Fay.  He is survived by the love of his life, Kristen Folkemer Fay; his adoring children, Caitlin (fiancé Sean Cronin), Matthew (fiancée Kayla Pillari), and Patrick (Sami Foley); the woman he most admired, Patricia Cahill Fay; his devoted siblings, Bryan, Regina and Sara; his in-laws, whom he welcomed with open arms; his nieces and nephews on whom he always doted; his beloved extended family of Fay, Ormond and Cahill aunts, uncles and cousins; and a loyal and joyful group of friends from all chapters of his life.  Special thanks to his dedicated caretaker, Colleen Fay Ciafardini, who shepherded him with affection and wisdom during his last months.

Jimmy attended Annunciation Grammar School in Crestwood, Iona Prep, and Fairfield University.  He began and grew the career he enjoyed at Merrill Lynch, with a fellowship of lifelong friends.  He loved boat rides on his sacred place, Lake George, a good movie, and a fine cigar.  He cherished his later years in Florida finding sea glass on the Delray beach with all of the visitors he so welcomed, and playing 18 on a sunny day.

He always made room for another person at the table, always held the door for a lady as a gentleman would, always was quick with a joke that elicited genuine laughter, and always was nearby with an encouraging word or hug in a challenging time.  Jimmy’s optimism and gratitude were unparalleled, and to honor him, we ask that you, “Tell your mother you love her, and call Grandma.”  We are all better people for loving and being loved by Jimmy Fay.  Until we meet again.

Calling hours at the Fred H. McGrath & Son, Funeral Home, Bronxville, 3 to 8 pm Wednesday, May 31st.  Mass of Christian Burial, Annunciation Church, 470 Westchester Ave., Crestwood, on Thursday June 1st at 11 am.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in his name to the Alzheimer’s Drug Discovery Foundation. www.alzdiscovery.org


Calling Hours: 3 to 8 pm, Wednesday, May 31, 2023

Mass: 11 am, Thursday, June 1, 2023 at Annunciation Church, Crestwood.

In Lieu of Flowers: Contributions may be made in Jimmy's name to the Alzheimer's Drug Discovery Foundation. www.alzdiscovery.org



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    Juliet mchue says

    My condolences to the Fay family. You’re all in my prayers. May you find comfort and peace during this difficult time

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      William T Quinn says

      Shocked to read this sad news. Jimmy and I worked together at Merrill Lynch.
      My prayers will be for him and his family.

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    RT staff on CG says

    Sending prayers to the Fay family and friends. Wonderful human being, so kind and good hearted. Loved seeing his smile every morning. He was a pleasure to work with.

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    Mark Astarita says

    What a great man! I only knew him for a few years, but he was a joy to be with. Lots of great golf memories. Condolences to his family, he will be missed.

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    Kim and phil Brennan says

    Didn’t know you for long . But glad I got to meet a part of you . You are loved my many . My condolences to Kristen., Your Children and your entire family. Now you can rest in peace

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    Beth Elser says

    To the Fay family, extended family and friends,
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I am from the old days in Crestwood as one of the babysitters who took care of the Fay children. They always kept me on my toes with their running around, antics, and ‘the baking of the chocolate chip cookies’ (much to Reggie’s delight when she and Mr. Fay returned home). Jimmy was the oldest and from what I remember, he and his neighborhood friends always seemed to be running the show! He was full of energy, smarts, and always respectful. It’s no surprise that he turned out as delightful as people say. I’m sorry Jimmy is gone way too soon. My prayers are with you. May he rest in peace.

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    Eliza Gray says

    Mr. Fay always had the biggest smile and heart and remember him on the soccer side lines always cheering and always with a cigar. Sending my love, condolences and prayers to all of the Fays.

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    Paul Leshinsky says

    Though not close for several years, jimmy has always been in our hearts and minds. What a wonderful, generous and giving individual. His gracious spirit, warm smile and kind humor will be greatly missed.
    Wishing the Fay family our sincere condolences during this difficult time.
    May his memory always be a blessing.
    The Leshinsky Family

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    Lisa says

    While I only met Jimmy a few times, his smile was contagious. What a tragedy. My thoughts and prayers are with you

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    Maria says

    My condolences to you, your children and the entire Fay family for your loss. In my short time in meeting Jimmy, he left me with a lasting impression of a sweet and wonderful man with a very contagious smile.
    May he RIP.

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    Gina Crane says

    So sorry for your loss. May he Rest In Peace.

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    Capital Formation Group, Inc. says

    Our deepest condolences to the Fay Family on the loss of James. James was a client of ours for many years and was always the ultimate gentleman. If we had more James Fay’s in the world, it would be a better place. Rest in peace Jimmy. You will be missed.

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    David Neal says

    My sincerest condolences for the Fay family at this time. My heart goes out to you all at this difficult time.
    Jimmy is now Resting in Peace

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    Lizanne O'Toole says

    He was a force at Fairfield, a force with his friends and all those he loved. Praying for this incredible man/soul. May he be showered with all the good will and love he so generously provided others. Carrying you all in prayer and cradling you in love as you navigate this new journey. Jimmy Fay was special XXOO

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    Kathy Latz says

    To The Fay Family- my thoughts and prayers are with you.
    I knew Jimmy from the Bristal where my dad Frank GIlligan also lived.
    Jimmy would greet me with that wonderful smile, a hug , a story and always held the door open for me because most of the time he was outside with his cigar.
    I pray that he is at peace and that you all can hold onto the wonderful memories.
    Kathy Latz

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    Terrence J. Fay says

    I shared with Jimmy my immense love for who he was, what he meant, and the life he led.

    I have nothing unsaid with him. He was my hero and idol in life. I know it and he knows it.

    I am truly sorry for anyone who feels the need to call that into question. It is just not the case.

    I never had a cross word or left his presence without saying I love you and a kiss.

    Rest well Jimmy! You did change the world and make it a better place. I am grateful and appreciative of your sacrifice and love for me.

    Until we meet again, may the Mother Mary and our parents hold you close and treat you dear. You are a gift from God who touches hearts. God’s speed for peace.


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    Carlene, Michael, Rebecca, Julia & Victoria Messinger says

    We were deeply saddened to hear about the passing of Jimmy. Please accept our heartfelt condolences on behalf of our entire family.
    Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    With deepest sympathies,

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    Lisa Trivisone says

    Fay Family,
    My thoughts and prayers are with you. I worked with Jimmy for a few years, he always had a smile on his face and talked about his kids. He was so proud of everything you did and who you became. Hope you have some peace in knowing he loved you so much. Rest in Peace.

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    Giselle Dente says

    I’m so sorry to just learn of Jimmy’s passing. He was a great guy. Very giving and loved his family dearly. I’m so honored to have known him and worked with him at UBS. I think if him always and will keep him in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest sympathies to all that loved him.

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